Does Makeup Actually Make You Pretty?

While I was at work today a lady came into my office wearing a little too much makeup. One of my colleagues reacted by saying that she looked like a witch. A little too harsh, isn't it?
She even continued by saying that makeup is a waste of time and that it's for ugly people. She didn't recognized the irony until I highlighted the face that she was wearing lipstick.

I don't believe makeup is a waste of time, nor do I believe that it's only for ugly people. Makeup has it's purpose and people, and once it is applied as it should I believe that it can actually make a person look better, or pretty in some cases. On the contrary, if it isn't applied correctly it can make you look like your're an advocate for witchcraft or something sinister.

I was attending a friend's wedding, and there was this guy wearing face powder. I'm not sure whether he applied it himself or he lost a bet, but I found that rather strange and queer. The powder was so much that it even messed up his white shirt.

But why do women really wear makeup? Does it actually make them pretty or prettier?
Beauty is relative; someone might be pretty to you, but to me, they're not so pretty. But who really are they trying to impress when they apply the makeup? Are they trying to make themselves feel confident?

I have female friends that wear makeup, and they look good, but when they approach me for a hug, or even when they get too close, I have to angle myself in such a way that piece of their face won't be left on my clothes. It's pretty uncomfortable and unwelcoming. Some guys can't touch their girl's face, they'd mess up their entire life. That would be a big upset for me, because I like kissing my girl on the forehead, and if she's gonna tell me I can't because of the makeup then we're gonna have a problem.

Science shows that men like women with less makeup. For me, I'd prefer a woman without the makeup. But even if this fact is highlighted to the world women would still find themselves with a supply of makeup tucked away. And that's mainly because women don't just dress up to look good to impress men, but to compete with other women, basically. I'll try to address that in another blog.

Some women actually wear makeup to make themselves feel good, and that's good in it's own way, but sometimes it's so extreme that it makes them uncomfortable. They can't smile too long, water can't touch their face etc. But what if the guy you're with likes you without it? Would you still be inclined to wearing makeup as much as you used to? Well, you shouldn't. Why? Because this guy already accepted you as you are, naturally. And I think he'd be happy to know that if he marries you, when he wakes up next to you he wouldn't want to know how some other woman got into his bed. Some women also wear makeup all the time, even at home. I'm not sure how they keep that up. It must be a lot of work. They probably forgot how they even look without it.

But all in all, if you think it makes you look good or better, then wear it, but not too much. Likewise, if you don't like it then don't use it, but don't be a douche about those that wear it. Also, if your partner likes you natural, try to ease up on it. Let your face breathe a little. You'll give him a chance to like you as you really are.

Relationships should be fair

One of the most troubling things about being in a relationship is giving too much of yourself and not getting as much in return - sometimes you don't get anything at all. You may often find yourself compromising things that you shouldn't only to please the person you're with, but they won't do the same for you.

It's a profound injustice, really. Relationships should be fair. 

Even in friendships, the things you do for your friends, because you generally care about them are sometimes taken for granted or may be unrewarding, and some are just ungrateful. 

But what could be worse, is having the person you're with -- the person who claims to love you, treat others better than they treat you. You cancel your plans to spend time with them, but they want to spend that time with friends. You listen to their problems and give advice, but they don't listen to you. They often give their friends or even strangers more of their attention than they give you. That's not fair at all. 

In all fairness, if you're married, your first priority should be your wife/husband. If you're unmarried, then things may be different, your family may somewhat be more important (not in all cases). But when it comes to the affairs of your relationship, your partner should be privileged to most of your attention. 

You shouldn't text anyone more than you text them. You shouldn't spend time checking up on other people more than you do them. You shouldn't stay up late on chatting with someone else while they're asleep. The things you won't want them to do to you, you shouldn't do to them. This is basic, and one of the most important aspect of developing your relationship and keeping it.

Now, I'm not an expert on relationships, but certain basic or general principles regarding relationships should be innate, especially in people who've been in relationships for lengthy periods.

These principles apply to friendships as well. You shouldn't treat your friends, well the ones closest to you, as though they're not appreciated. It's not fair that you text everybody else but them. It's not fair that you spend time hanging out with everybody but them. 

You may be treated unfairly in your relationship or by your friend, but because you're bashful or you just don't want to initiate some kind of unwanted conflict with your partner or friend, you remain silent or you just brush it off and make excuses. But such problems can be resolved by simple conversation with that person.

Even I'm guilty of treating my friends unfairly, and I really wish things were different. But as much as I could, I try to mend broken pieces of my friendships, because I really care about these people, and I know they do for me. And it makes me happy to know that there are people out there that actually care about me, why shouldn't I care about them?

In the long run, when you treat people the same way you want them to treat you, the reward is far greater than it is to lose the people that love you most.

Hopefully it's not too late...