Is homosexuality a lifestyle choice or is it determined at birth?

I had to write a two page paper on this topic and I'd just like to share my views.

Dictionary.com defines homosexuality as sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex.” This means that a person would not only have the desire, but as postulated by the definition, a homosexual will have sexual behavior or activities with a person of their own sex. Clearly, a person cannot be born like this.

The majority of homosexuals believe they were born "gay” because this belief often supplies them with comfort, relieving them of any responsibility to change. This belief is also used to justify the actions of homosexuals. However, there is no solid scientific evidence that people are born homosexual. The overwhelming majority of gay people are completely normal genetically. They are fully male or female.

In the article “This is the way God Made Me ” Harrub et al suggested that “Skin color and other genetic traits can be traced through inheritance patterns and simple Mendelian genetics.  Homosexuals are identified not by a trait or a gene, but rather by their actions.  Without the action, they would be indistinguishable from all other people.  It is only when they alter their behavior that they become a group that is recognized as being different.”

The article also continues to say that “it is not scientifically accurate to refer to a “gay gene” as the causative agent in homosexuality.  The available evidence clearly establishes that no such gene has been identified.  Additionally, evidence exists which documents that homosexuals can change their sexual orientation.”

If even the alleged “gay gene” existed, it cannot account for homosexual behavior completely. Sarah Knapton (2014) indicated that “Homosexuality is only partly genetic with sexuality mostly based on environmental and social factors, scientists believe. A study found that, while gay men shared similar genetic make-up, it only accounted for 40 per cent of the chance of a man being homosexual.” This means that there is a 60 percent chance that a man with the “gay gene” will not be homosexual. In fact the scientist that found the alleged “gay genes” cannot give account for homosexual behavior in females. There is no “gay genes” found in females. So how then, do females become homosexual or “lesbian?” What is responsible for homosexuality is females?

Sarah Knapton (2014) also quoted that “environmental factors were likely to have the biggest impact on homosexuality…Environment means anything that is not in our DNA at birth, and that includes a lot of stuff that is not social.”

Homosexuality may have some genetic influences, but like all other genetic traits, or influences, having them is not really a problem, but rather acting on them. For example, a person can have the genetic trait of athletic abilities, that person may have the desire to become athletic, but the desire in itself does not make that person athletic. To become athletic, the person must choose to perform athletic activities.  

Having a natural or intrinsic sexual desire cannot completely justify a person’s sexual orientation. Whether or not someone is naturally oriented to be romantically and sexually attracted to people of the same gender does not mean that it is automatically morally acceptable or should be their way of life. If a person's natural predisposition toward same-sex attraction means that it is normal "for them" and thereby acceptable, then we run into problems. What do we do with people who are naturally oriented towards being attracted to children, i.e., pedophilia? Is it morally wrong? Should we allow them to act on their intrinsic sexual desire? You see, if we say that a "natural" orientation in sexuality should automatically be accepted because it is what is "natural" to a person, then the same logic could be used to support the idea that pedophilia--which people also claim is natural for them--is also acceptable. Thus, Homosexuality is a lifestyle choice and cannot be determined by birth.

Does Makeup Actually Make You Pretty?

While I was at work today a lady came into my office wearing a little too much makeup. One of my colleagues reacted by saying that she looked like a witch. A little too harsh, isn't it?
She even continued by saying that makeup is a waste of time and that it's for ugly people. She didn't recognized the irony until I highlighted the face that she was wearing lipstick.

I don't believe makeup is a waste of time, nor do I believe that it's only for ugly people. Makeup has it's purpose and people, and once it is applied as it should I believe that it can actually make a person look better, or pretty in some cases. On the contrary, if it isn't applied correctly it can make you look like your're an advocate for witchcraft or something sinister.

I was attending a friend's wedding, and there was this guy wearing face powder. I'm not sure whether he applied it himself or he lost a bet, but I found that rather strange and queer. The powder was so much that it even messed up his white shirt.

But why do women really wear makeup? Does it actually make them pretty or prettier?
Beauty is relative; someone might be pretty to you, but to me, they're not so pretty. But who really are they trying to impress when they apply the makeup? Are they trying to make themselves feel confident?

I have female friends that wear makeup, and they look good, but when they approach me for a hug, or even when they get too close, I have to angle myself in such a way that piece of their face won't be left on my clothes. It's pretty uncomfortable and unwelcoming. Some guys can't touch their girl's face, they'd mess up their entire life. That would be a big upset for me, because I like kissing my girl on the forehead, and if she's gonna tell me I can't because of the makeup then we're gonna have a problem.

Science shows that men like women with less makeup. For me, I'd prefer a woman without the makeup. But even if this fact is highlighted to the world women would still find themselves with a supply of makeup tucked away. And that's mainly because women don't just dress up to look good to impress men, but to compete with other women, basically. I'll try to address that in another blog.

Some women actually wear makeup to make themselves feel good, and that's good in it's own way, but sometimes it's so extreme that it makes them uncomfortable. They can't smile too long, water can't touch their face etc. But what if the guy you're with likes you without it? Would you still be inclined to wearing makeup as much as you used to? Well, you shouldn't. Why? Because this guy already accepted you as you are, naturally. And I think he'd be happy to know that if he marries you, when he wakes up next to you he wouldn't want to know how some other woman got into his bed. Some women also wear makeup all the time, even at home. I'm not sure how they keep that up. It must be a lot of work. They probably forgot how they even look without it.

But all in all, if you think it makes you look good or better, then wear it, but not too much. Likewise, if you don't like it then don't use it, but don't be a douche about those that wear it. Also, if your partner likes you natural, try to ease up on it. Let your face breathe a little. You'll give him a chance to like you as you really are.

Relationships should be fair

One of the most troubling things about being in a relationship is giving too much of yourself and not getting as much in return - sometimes you don't get anything at all. You may often find yourself compromising things that you shouldn't only to please the person you're with, but they won't do the same for you.

It's a profound injustice, really. Relationships should be fair. 

Even in friendships, the things you do for your friends, because you generally care about them are sometimes taken for granted or may be unrewarding, and some are just ungrateful. 

But what could be worse, is having the person you're with -- the person who claims to love you, treat others better than they treat you. You cancel your plans to spend time with them, but they want to spend that time with friends. You listen to their problems and give advice, but they don't listen to you. They often give their friends or even strangers more of their attention than they give you. That's not fair at all. 

In all fairness, if you're married, your first priority should be your wife/husband. If you're unmarried, then things may be different, your family may somewhat be more important (not in all cases). But when it comes to the affairs of your relationship, your partner should be privileged to most of your attention. 

You shouldn't text anyone more than you text them. You shouldn't spend time checking up on other people more than you do them. You shouldn't stay up late on chatting with someone else while they're asleep. The things you won't want them to do to you, you shouldn't do to them. This is basic, and one of the most important aspect of developing your relationship and keeping it.

Now, I'm not an expert on relationships, but certain basic or general principles regarding relationships should be innate, especially in people who've been in relationships for lengthy periods.

These principles apply to friendships as well. You shouldn't treat your friends, well the ones closest to you, as though they're not appreciated. It's not fair that you text everybody else but them. It's not fair that you spend time hanging out with everybody but them. 

You may be treated unfairly in your relationship or by your friend, but because you're bashful or you just don't want to initiate some kind of unwanted conflict with your partner or friend, you remain silent or you just brush it off and make excuses. But such problems can be resolved by simple conversation with that person.

Even I'm guilty of treating my friends unfairly, and I really wish things were different. But as much as I could, I try to mend broken pieces of my friendships, because I really care about these people, and I know they do for me. And it makes me happy to know that there are people out there that actually care about me, why shouldn't I care about them?

In the long run, when you treat people the same way you want them to treat you, the reward is far greater than it is to lose the people that love you most.

Hopefully it's not too late...

Why Do Men Cheat (In My Opinion)

This is one of the most controversial social issues, and I would like to address it using my experiences, observations and general understanding.

Hear me out a little...

WHY DO MEN CHEAT? 
Answer: Simply because they can.

Seems a little bit too straight forward, doesn't it?

Men don't need any long, drawn out explanations or epistemology, they will cheat if they can.
If there is a chance that a man can have sexual relations outside of his relationship without any third party knowing, he will most likely take that chance.

Cheating, to me, is any dishonest or unfair act within a relationship, which includes depriving your partner of certain privileges, and giving that part of yourself  and attention that is supposed to be for your partner to another party; which includes lust, flirting, sex and sexual activities outside of the relationship, having a relationship with another party among other akin situations).

Now, what can stop a man from having sex with another woman that wants to have sex with him? What can stop a man from flirting? What can stop a man from thinking about having sex with your best friend or sister? What can stop a man from having several other relationships? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

We all know that men are visual; their bodies respond sexually to what they see. This means the vast majority of men, if not all, respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn't just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dressed in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it's just a glance, these visual images are stored away in his brain as some sort of visual rolodex that will appear without warning. A man can be sexually aroused just by looking at a woman. She doesn't have to say a word to him, she doesn't have to touch him, she might not even know he exist, but in his mind he just wants to have sex with her. But the thing is, men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them. But they can't control when these images appear.

No matter how good of a person he may be. He may very well treat you better than anyone else in the world, as long as he can cheat with even the slightest chance of you finding out, he "might". And it doesn't matter how good of a girl you are either, you can have all the right assets, that sure won't stop him from flirting with that girl at work. Some men are with some most beautiful women on the face of this earth, and they would cheat with some skank they don't even know.

Literally, if you want to stop your man from cheating, you must always be around your man when he has sexual urges. And that is almost impossible.

THERE IS ONLY ONE THING THAT CAN STOP A MAN FROM CHEATING, Himself.

Not all men cheat! That should be the best part of this blog.
Not all men cheat. Some men, are really committed to their wives or girlfriends that they actually resist some of the strongest temptations from some of the sexiest and easiest women to get.
But that is literally all it takes for you to be in a relationship free from infidelity; A MAN THAT IS COMMITTED TO HIS WOMAN. It's probably one of the hardest things to do, and women with such men should be most grateful.

I can't tell you how if your man is faithful or committed. But, if there is no evidence of him cheating or any signs of infidelity, then you should be happy to be with that guy.

My Views on sex (Part 2 ) : What More Can You Give?

Most relationships are initiated because sex or some kind of sexual attraction. Ironically, most relationships end because of sex. Also, sex is the remnant of most relationship, if not the only thing that was present from the inception.

Women usually think that sex is the ultimate reward for their spouse after doing something for them or achieving something. If he treats her good, she'll have sex with him. If he buys her gifts, she'll "lay it on him real good."
But is that the only thing you can give...your body?
Is sex the only thing you can give to a man?

There must be something else that you can do to satisfy a man without opening your legs. If every time he does something good, you reward him with sex, eventually he will stop doing good things, because he already knows the incentive is sex. And eventually, that incentive will lose it's purpose. Likewise, be assured that the rewarder also will lose her purpose.

All men want sex. But sex is not all men want. And if sex is all you have to offer, then sex is all he will take. Your value, your self-worth is dependent on how good that sex is. What value will you be when you can give him sex?

How about a good conversation?
You don't have to be the smartest girl. You don't have to be a babble mouth. Yes, some men don't like to talk too much. But try to learn about his interests. Maybe you might be interested in something that is. You'd be surprised to hear how he'd babble about a sports game or new gadgets or some social issue if you raise the topic. And even though he may not want to talk, sometimes listening to you may find him trying to learn about you. You'll both understand each other more and quality time for you both will be more and more progressive. He will make time for you, because he knows that he will be learning about his woman more. And trust me, men always wants to know about his woman.

How about you cook him a nice meal?
Sounds sexist, doesn't it? And it's like you're doing everything, right?
But if you want this guy to stick around, try feeding him. He will very well come by as often as he could. Soon enough he'd even be proposing.
Once he's fed you can get him to do almost anything you want...especially if the food is really good.

Play with him, watch the game with him, go watch him play sports...there are so many things you can do to please a man without having sex with him.

I can't tell you how to please your man, nor can I tell you how to keep him...but sex won't make him stay with you. Will you raise his children with sex? And if all you can reward him with is sex, then you are very weak....and not very far from a prostitute

CSEC 2014: CXC 2014

Yesterday someone asked me if I think students should write more than ten CSEC subjects.
My immediate response was "As long as they think they can do it, and they can afford it, then they should go for it."

I remember in the comments section of my report card in primary school, and sometimes in high school, the teacher would write "Very good. Can do better" even when I had exceptional grades.

Parents and other adults would always encourage students to do their best. And any good parent/guardian or teacher would want their child or student to always, no matter what, try their best to accomplish the best they can, or acquire the highest of success that they can achieve. But what if 19 subjects or even 20 Subjects is their best, why shouldn't they strive for that?

"But what will a child do with so many subjects?"
Anything! Literally, anything they want!

With a manifold of more than 10 subjects, you would have incorporated at least 2 fields of study, or streams as we know them. How better would it be to have achieved passed in varying areas of study.

"But don't they know what they want to be? If they know what they want to be, then they should study only that field."

Students usually write most, if not all of their subjects in 5th Form. In 5th Form, you're between the ages of 15-18. At that age you may have an idea of what you want to become, but as you get older, your values and goals change (or are modified). Also, your career choice may change depending on the economy of the country you're in, among other environmental influences. For example, two children in high school may want to become a surgeon. One writes 15 subjects, which would include science subjects as core subjects as well as subjects from other streams. The other only writes science core subjects and the generals (Mathematics and English). If a situation arises, that would deter both children from continuing his/her study (the sole breadwinner becomes ill or dies), the child that writes 15 subjects is in a better position to choose a career choice after the sad dilemma than the one who writes only core subjects from his area of study.
Also, the more you achieve, the better your Curriculum Vitae or Resume looks -- anyone would want to hire you.

Zimeena Rasheed is believed to be the first student to write 20 subjects in one sitting, achieving 18 grade ones and two grade twos in 2013. Elisa Hamilton got 19 grade ones when she wrote the CSEC exams in 2014. That is legendary. Imagine the amount or organizations and institutions that will be reaching out to these students to provide them with scholarships. Imagine the amount of industries that want to hire people with such outstanding performance. 

You may say that they probably don't have a social life, or they have no life at all. But in today's society, you're either studying, or making babies or involved some gang. When a child chooses education over a social life that involves sex and other immoral behavior, and criminal activities, they should be rewarded as well appreciated. 

"CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL THOSE THAT WERE SUCCESSFUL IN THE CSEC EXAMINATIONS. BEST WISHES FOR YOUR FUTURE ENDEAVORS." 

My Views On Sex (Part 1): Sexuality In Guyana

As a woman, there are certain values that you must possess to be considered one of the "good women."

In every society, sex is one of the most prevalent and conventional topic or social issues, affecting all stages or age groups from adolescent (sometimes even before) right up to the elderly.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the average age Americans lose their virginities (vaginal sexual intercourse) is 17.1 for both men and women. The CDC also reports that virgins make up to 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males aged 20 to 24.
No such research research was done in Guyana, but based on observation, I would like to assume this same statistic in it's relevance. But for the benefit of the doubt, lets assume that the average age a person, both male and female, loses their virginity is 18. Based on this assumption, we can say that the average student leaves high school without their virginity, or loses it just after they leave.

What does this mean?

Firstly, if you are a parent, or considering becoming a parent, I won't like to think that you'd like to invest your time and money into your child's education only to discover that their extracurricular activities involves sexual activities. Most times, if not all the time, peer pressure is highly responsible for these kind of behavior...and your child will have friends; that in itself is inevitable.

Secondly, if you leave high school a virgin, you are among an group of people that are on the verge of extinction. In the eyes of most religious societies and organizations that advocates morals and values, that is something exceptional -- you should be praised for that. But in the eyes of the general society, if you leave school a virgin, you're either a "mook (someone who is considered to be lame; not very impressive)", a liar or some kind of geek.

Celibacy is almost nonexistent in this society, especially with media and internet using sex to solicit it's audience and customers while trying to establish the idea that for one to become famous or popular, or for one to fit into society and it's norms they must acquire a certain kind of sexual orientation. This by itself is, in fact true, but this will be discussed in a subsequent blog.

But how can one abstain from sexual activities before marriage when they are saturated with sex even before their very bodies aren't even fully developed?

Moreover, sex is very important. According to Abraham's Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs sex is a physiological need. If these needs are not met the human body will fail; these needs are most important and should be met first. But when you're in a relationship that's based on sex, and dependent on sex, your relationship will only last as long as the sex is good.

Furthermore, if you are in a relationship, you must have something else to give other than just sex. When there is no sex, what will you have? (This will be discussed in a subsequent blog.)

What Kind Of Christian Are You

So many times we talk about being Christian, but we hardly every live the Christian life.
So frequently we condemn the world of iniquity, but seldom do we ever pray for others.
So many times we have spiritual revivals and week or prayer, hoping to make us, who already have the good news stronger in the faith and closer to God. But hardly do we ever, maybe never, do we even think about helping others draw closer to God. As we grow closer to God, others are drifting...are we so holy that we can't go out into the community to share this good news? Is this the life God wants us to live?

The Bible tells us in Matthew 9:10-13 KJV "And it came to pass, as Jesus sat at meat in the house, behold, many publicans and sinners came and sat down with him and his disciples. And when the Pharisees saw it , they said unto his disciples, Why eateth your Master with publicans and sinners? But when Jesus heard that , he said unto them, They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick. But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance."

If Jesus, who came to save the world, could find the time to be with those right in His community, wherever He went, how much are we more important that we can't find a few nice words to say to a stranger? How much more important are we that we can't share our food with the needy? Can't we spend some time meeting the needs of our community rather than our own needs? Can we lose our selfish ways and spend some time with those in need of our help?
The world is in danger.