Relationships should be fair

One of the most troubling things about being in a relationship is giving too much of yourself and not getting as much in return - sometimes you don't get anything at all. You may often find yourself compromising things that you shouldn't only to please the person you're with, but they won't do the same for you.

It's a profound injustice, really. Relationships should be fair. 

Even in friendships, the things you do for your friends, because you generally care about them are sometimes taken for granted or may be unrewarding, and some are just ungrateful. 

But what could be worse, is having the person you're with -- the person who claims to love you, treat others better than they treat you. You cancel your plans to spend time with them, but they want to spend that time with friends. You listen to their problems and give advice, but they don't listen to you. They often give their friends or even strangers more of their attention than they give you. That's not fair at all. 

In all fairness, if you're married, your first priority should be your wife/husband. If you're unmarried, then things may be different, your family may somewhat be more important (not in all cases). But when it comes to the affairs of your relationship, your partner should be privileged to most of your attention. 

You shouldn't text anyone more than you text them. You shouldn't spend time checking up on other people more than you do them. You shouldn't stay up late on chatting with someone else while they're asleep. The things you won't want them to do to you, you shouldn't do to them. This is basic, and one of the most important aspect of developing your relationship and keeping it.

Now, I'm not an expert on relationships, but certain basic or general principles regarding relationships should be innate, especially in people who've been in relationships for lengthy periods.

These principles apply to friendships as well. You shouldn't treat your friends, well the ones closest to you, as though they're not appreciated. It's not fair that you text everybody else but them. It's not fair that you spend time hanging out with everybody but them. 

You may be treated unfairly in your relationship or by your friend, but because you're bashful or you just don't want to initiate some kind of unwanted conflict with your partner or friend, you remain silent or you just brush it off and make excuses. But such problems can be resolved by simple conversation with that person.

Even I'm guilty of treating my friends unfairly, and I really wish things were different. But as much as I could, I try to mend broken pieces of my friendships, because I really care about these people, and I know they do for me. And it makes me happy to know that there are people out there that actually care about me, why shouldn't I care about them?

In the long run, when you treat people the same way you want them to treat you, the reward is far greater than it is to lose the people that love you most.

Hopefully it's not too late...