As a woman, there are certain values that you must possess to be considered one of the "good women."
In every society, sex is one of the most prevalent and conventional topic or social issues, affecting all stages or age groups from adolescent (sometimes even before) right up to the elderly.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the average age Americans lose their virginities (vaginal sexual intercourse) is 17.1 for both men and women. The CDC also reports that virgins make up to 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males aged 20 to 24.
No such research research was done in Guyana, but based on observation, I would like to assume this same statistic in it's relevance. But for the benefit of the doubt, lets assume that the average age a person, both male and female, loses their virginity is 18. Based on this assumption, we can say that the average student leaves high school without their virginity, or loses it just after they leave.
What does this mean?
Firstly, if you are a parent, or considering becoming a parent, I won't like to think that you'd like to invest your time and money into your child's education only to discover that their extracurricular activities involves sexual activities. Most times, if not all the time, peer pressure is highly responsible for these kind of behavior...and your child will have friends; that in itself is inevitable.
Secondly, if you leave high school a virgin, you are among an group of people that are on the verge of extinction. In the eyes of most religious societies and organizations that advocates morals and values, that is something exceptional -- you should be praised for that. But in the eyes of the general society, if you leave school a virgin, you're either a "mook (someone who is considered to be lame; not very impressive)", a liar or some kind of geek.
Celibacy is almost nonexistent in this society, especially with media and internet using sex to solicit it's audience and customers while trying to establish the idea that for one to become famous or popular, or for one to fit into society and it's norms they must acquire a certain kind of sexual orientation. This by itself is, in fact true, but this will be discussed in a subsequent blog.
But how can one abstain from sexual activities before marriage when they are saturated with sex even before their very bodies aren't even fully developed?
Moreover, sex is very important. According to Abraham's Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs sex is a physiological need. If these needs are not met the human body will fail; these needs are most important and should be met first. But when you're in a relationship that's based on sex, and dependent on sex, your relationship will only last as long as the sex is good.
Furthermore, if you are in a relationship, you must have something else to give other than just sex. When there is no sex, what will you have? (This will be discussed in a subsequent blog.)
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